Good work! You found a couples counselor!!
At this point though, it’s likely you are not celebrating. Many people do not want to go to counseling, despite experiencing intense conflict, distance, or hurt in their relationship. People often fear making things worse in their relationship and let’s face it, therapy can be hard work. If you’re reading this, you are probably unsure of how to make things better with your partner and are really hoping there’s a chance for improvement.
A lot of couples find they keep having the same argument over and over again. Each person wants to feel heard and understood, and yet somehow as couples try to communicate this to one another they end up more frustrated, angry, and alone. Well here’s the good (and the bad) news: this is normal.
As bad as this may sound, consider the relief you might experience if you went to the doctor and explained your symptoms and the doc said, “This is normal. I see people with this problem often and have a plan we can follow to help you feel better.”
We now have highly effective ways of helping distressed couples work things out. This is why I choose to practice Emotionally Focused Therapy. This approach is a research-based, highly effective method of couples therapy that leads to lasting results for 70-75% of couples. And guess what…it’s based in authenticity.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps people communicate more effectively through building a safe and secure bond. We know that when couples feel safe and connected with one another, they tend to be better at problem-solving, enjoy a more fulfilling sex life, and reap physical health benefits as well. We can empower your relationship to be healing instead of hurtful.
You may feel far from your partner at the moment, but even couples with trauma in their past can benefit from couples counseling. In fact, EFT is quite beneficial for those with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder in particular.
We all need a safe haven in this world. Wouldn’t it be nice if it was with your partner?
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This journey is possible at any age and any stage of a committed relationship. I am a Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist and work with all types of couples and relationships.
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